Patterns & Unconsciousness

Patterns are usually pretty flipping unconscious. Even if you are aware of them, the actual pattern that produces the actual events that suck in your life (or if you’re lucky, the ones that create a beautiful life) life in your unconscious until they are triggered. Then we usually just react to the wounding or suppress them with various coping methods.

Even when we know a pattern exists in our family of origin, we usually think we have it covered. We know we will make different choices, be a different person, manifest a different kind of experience for ourselves and the people we love - including the families we create, whether through romantic union that produces flesh and blood children, through adoption or through close, deep relationships that function like family through common history or instant emotional connection that flowers into a shared life. We often succeed in one or more ways at doing things differently, and then simultaneously produces the same old results in a brand new flashy, updated wardrobe. It can feel mighty unfair because we feel like we already endured whatever we endured in childhood, we did our best to make conscious choices to do better, to make things different for ourselves, and our children, and then boom!

Maybe we make a few mistakes that are the same or different, and our child(ren) reacts the same way to us that we did to our parents!

Maybe we get so stressed out that we revert to a style of dealing with what our children present to us that is oddly and horrifyingly familiar.

Maybe we do it all “right” and still our children wish we did it differently, perhaps because their personality matrix requires a different kind of parenting than the one we “did right.”

Or maybe influences outside the family - or at least outside the immediate family seem to sabotage your every effort to create a safe, wholesome, joyous place for your family to thrive, and seem to derail our goals and devolve our family dynamics into ones we thought we could single-handedly move your family beyond.

Maybe we married the opposite type of person than our parents but underneath there was a thread of similarity in at least one aspect, unrecognizable to conscious analysis, and we must now face our own reactions to that trigger in order to move forward positively, in a life-affirming manner.

The beauty of being triggered - even having the shit hit the fan is we get an awesome opportunity to truly see, feel, and love the "us" who has experienced these pattern and yet also remained innocent beyond them. Then when we feel them arise, we can release them. I am so excited to be creating an alchemy program of seven formulas to help you do just that!

I know this month has revealed many patterns to me that I inherited and it's been a wonderful opportunity to have more compassion and forgiveness for my own parents as well as to awaken new layers that are ready to slough off, heal or shift into a vibration of bliss.

These are intense times and they are not always rose cakes and rainbows. At the same time, we never, ever even for a moment stop being innocent, miraulous beings created in Love, by Love, for Love.

We've got this!
You're not alone.
If you'd like to schedule a one on one session, feel free to reach out using the contact form on the website.

Otherwise stay tuned for the Alchemy of Seven <3

Love
Alicia